"To be human is to need others and this is no flaw or weakness."
~ Dr. Sue Johnson
A solid and strong bond with a partner can give us the confidence to move about in the world with less fear because we know that we are not walking through the world alone. When this bond becomes tenuous, our minds and bodies react as if threatened. This is why a breakup is termed and truly feels like a broken heart.
As someone who has achieved so much in their lives, it’s so frustrating when fixing your relationship isn’t something that you can just power through. By the time you are reading this page, you've probably tried everything in your toolbox to fix the issues in your relationship or marriage on your own, or just have no idea where to begin. The distress you feel, whether from conflict or lonely distance, actually tells me how much you care about each other. Even if you are in a place that feels hopeless and you don't know where to take the next step, let me assure you that there is hope. As a certified EFT therapist, I know the roadmap to help you get back on track.
Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) is a highly researched and successful counseling strategy for helping couples move out of their relationship distress and resolve issues in a lasting way. It involves helping couples understand and express their feelings, identify the negative patterns in their relationship, and using that knowledge to break free from these cyles in the future to rebuild a stronger bond and healthier interactions.
EFT helps you change the script of how you manage conflict, giving you the tools and understanding you need to navigate different attachment styles, experiences, and triggers creating more relationship satisfaction and durability.
What couples therapy can do to help:
Create healthier communication dynamics to resolve conflict so partners feel heard and understood
Improve physical intimacy and connection
Build trust, heal wounds, and improve security in a relationship following an affair or breach of trust
Learn strategies to become more effective co-parents and household partners around finances, chores, and responsibilities
Find new ways to address challenges unique to your relationship and dynamic so you feel seen and understood
Grow security and support when struggling with infertility, pregnancy, or postpartum challenges
Successfully navigate life’s transitions such as having a baby, moving, career changes, and retirement
Emotionally reconnect after years of feeling like roommates